Message from Hilda Lee (May 10)

With deep sadness our good friend and collegue and loving father Robert
Lee Wing Kai passed away peacfully at home on February 25th, 2003 from metastatic melanoma. Our deepest condolences
to Hilda, Kathy, Max, and the rest of the Lee family. We all will miss him deeply and good rest his soul.
Alex Chai Family and Marina Wong Family
Los Angeles, CA
Message from Alex Chai --
Enclosed is an eulogy for Robert Lee at the funeral service. In
attendance were Ronnie and Emily Poon, Roger Cheung, Jeff Ma and his wife, Rosanna Tang and daughter, Jean Hu, Marina Wong,
and Alex Chai and Mimi Yu. Robert also had colleagues from Cal Tech and UC Riverside. After the service we all
went to a nice farewell dinner with the Lee family. The Lee family sincerely thanks everyone for their
kindness and support during this tragic time and wish all good health and happiness in the future.
"We gather here to say goodbye to a good friend and loving father and
express our condolences from the class of 1966 to Hilda, children Kathy and Max, and the rest of the Lee family.
I just want to say a few words about "Bob" and also regards from friends overseas.
I first met "Bob" or "Ah Kai" in our famous "Red square" football ground in
High school. Our school was known to be physically unfit and when Bob and his best friend, Tony Ho Kwok Sum, joined
us in Form I they and the rest of the newcomers were beating us left and right. Especially Bob, who had that "never
say die" attitude. Luckily we were able to round up good players and formed the "Kowloon team" that consisted of
Roger Cheung, Ramsay Chang, Christopher Leung, Peter Woo, and myself, so that we matched up with "Bob's" team quite
well. The rivalry lasted all seven years and we got to know each other very well. Bob was always a relentless
fighter and never accepted defeat and we did well against other classes with him, Tony, Henry Kwan, Benny Chin, Spencer
Lui, John Lowe, Aubrey Li, Robert Laye, Stanley Kwok, and many others. He was also the "cerebral" kid in the class.
While I struggled just to move on from year to year, he was able to remain the top of the class without much difficulty.
We parted after High school and Bob finished Hong Kong University and onward
to Cambridge and Oxford on scholarship. During his HKU years, Peter Chung remembered how Bob organized and rallied
his football team, which was the worst in the league, to play to a 0/0 tie with the best team instead of losing usually 0
to 10.
After Oxford he came to the US and became a professor at California
Technical Institute. His journey to Los Angeles and Cal Tech was very amazing. He had a stroke after he
received a heart surgery and was not only able to fully rehabilitate himself, he was also able to play tennis vigorously as
well as continue to teach, sharing his knowledge with his students and children.
He put up a great fight against a deadly illness with dignity and acceptance
and again had the "never let die" attitude. He and I had many conversations about the treatment and other options and
he knew even more than I did. During his last days in the hospital, we still shared good laughs about our innocent years
and mutual friends that dated back to more than 30 years ago.
Many friends sent their regards, including: Tony Ho from Toronto, Robert
Laye from California, Bonnie Kwan from Hong Kong, Benny Chin from Hong Kong, Peter Chung and Spencer Lui from Vancouver, and
Alan Ho from Hong Kong. We all will miss him dearly and give our love, from the class of '66, to his family.
A quote from Peter Chung. Our School Motto is 'Faith, hope,
and love. And the greatest of all is love.' and may God's love be with you, always."
Alex Chai on behalf of the Class of '66
Message from Roger Cheung --
.... I also tried to recollect what I said at his funeral. I did
not have anything prepared but Emily pursuaded me to say something. It was a shock and everything is still
a blur. Attached is what I think I said, or intended to say.
My name is Roger Cheung and I
am a member of the Kowloon Team at the Red
Square. I played soccer against Robert most of the time. Our 7-year rivalry developed into a life-long friendship. I
did not have anything prepared today. Forgive me if I ramble a lot.
I live in the Silicon
Valley and the motto there is "Work hard. Play hard. Life is too short." Robert represents the epitome of this
motto. Not only did he worked hard and had accomplished professionally more than
most of us in our lifetime, he was also very active in many sports. He always
played hard but he always played fair. He was able to win the respect of his
opponents and the heart of his teammates. Believe it or not, I used to play goalie. My most memorable moment is when I saved a penalty kick from Robert at Henry Kwan's
home. I was able to accomplish that by using something he had taught me:
strategy. I can still remember that vividly as if it occurred only yesterday. For once, I was able to beat the Master in his own game. That was the highlight of my short soccer career.
Last Christmas, I came to LA with
my family to visit college campuses for my son, Eric. Robert volunteered to give
us a tour of Caltech. On the night before our visit, he left me a message at
my hotel. No, he left me 2 messages to make sure that I would get them. He apologized that he would not be able to keep his promise because he was at the
hospital. To ease my fear, he added, "Don't worry. I am fine!" I went to Caltech the next day and got his home
phone number from his administrative assistant. I wanted to find out his hospital
so that I could visit him. Unfortunately, Hilda was not at home and I left a
message. I asked my family to spend the day in Pasadena
so that I could call his home periodically. I had an uneasy feeling that if I
miss this opportunity, I may never see him again. (Long pause with tears)
I did not try hard enough. I learned from this experience that we should treasure every precious moment with
our love ones. Life is too short. You
may never get another chance!
Message from Kenneth Chan (Robert's brother-in-law)
" The last few months, especially the final two weeks, had been very hard on the family. Your
kindness is deeply appreciated.
We are both deeply touched by the thoughts and emotions expressed by Robert's classmates. He
was indeed a lucky man to have friends like you.
Please thank the rest of the classmates for us."
After Funeral Dinner |

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SPCC66 attendees and Retta (Robert's sister) and Kenneth Chan (brother-in-law) |
Lee Family |

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Hilda (3rd from left back row) Kathy and Max (3rd & 4th from left front row) |
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"..... I last spoke with Robert on New Year's Day. When he told me that the therapy has failed and that the melanoma
has come back, I kind of knew that he was prepared for the worst. He not only was cheerful but I can sense that he was
trying to keep my spirit up in spite of the news. He was talking about visiting me this summer so we can attend this
year's U.S. Open Tennis Tourney in NY..... Robert has faced the entire ordeal bravely like a man, something I certainly
have admired him for and have taken note of......" Henry Kwan
".....This is very sad news, and I'm sure today will be one of the saddest days of my life. I feel as if part of me has
left me. I have so many fond memories of Robert. It will take me a long time to overcome this......" Tony Ho
"How sad, I can still remember Robert so clearly from high school." Robert Laye
".....I feel really sad about Robert Lee. He is too young to go and I hope he is at peace with God. I said
a prayer for him and his family....." Susie Lee
".....seems like yesterday when Robert was the leading mini-soccer forward playing at the Garden Road playground.
His "never say lose" attitude was already very much evident then. He is sorely missed......" C.K. Yeung
".....It was with great sadness to know that Robert is no longer with us. I know his spirit will live on......
I am pleased and impressed by Robert's perseverence over the years and eventually became a professor at Caltech - what a success
story! ...... I am sure that he fought a brave battle as he did with all obstacles he faced, heart valve probelms, major
surgeries, stroke... Maybe it's God's intention for him to have a rest for now. I am doubly sure that his spirit and
influence will remain with all the people he touched, his wife, children, fellow associates, student and members of his
tennis team, and will continue to flourish......" Spenser Lui
".....We were in the class together only in Form 2, yet I remember him quite well as a nice fellow. I was lucky
enough to meet him again at the Vancouver class reunion...." Eddy Chan
".....With the sad news of the passing of Robert, fond memory of his highschool days seem to relive in the mind......
May I share a quotation from William Penn, "Those that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot
kill what never dies....." Bonnie Kwan
".....When we were at HKU, we belong to the same
non-residential hall with the worse soccer team. However, under his captaincy, we finally played a match to a 0:0 draw.
This was a major fete considering we used to lose by almost 10 goals..... Many years later when I met him again in 1998 he had just recovered from a stroke. But he picked himself up,
got back into his tennis game. By the 1999 Reunion in Vancouver, he played tennis one-on-two against Ho KwokSum and
me. Fortunately there is no official record as to how bad Robert beat both of us......
At the reunion, he talked about the importance of teaching and training
his kids, and the younger generation in general, to deal with failure as well as success. That lesson had made
a significant impression in many of us......" Peter Chung
"Lee Wing-kai left, but he is always with us..... As time
passes, more and more of us will leave this world. Whatever we do at this farewell will have a paradigmatic effect
on the future. And Lee Wing-kai will smile on us if we do this one well - not because of himself, but because
he always said that one should be well organized...... So
Robert, may we be worthy of you, and be able to have you as part of us for the rest of our lives." Alan Ho
"..... we spent a few days camping in the Yosemites. We shared the
majestic beauty of the Rocky Mountain, and endured the freezing cold nights in our not well equipped tent. Some years later
we discussed about collaboration in research. He was to contribute his expertise in NMR (nuclear magnet resonance) to help
solve some of the biological problems I was working on. Unfortunately because of his heart problem at that time, the project
never got off the ground. I remember Robert as a gentle man, a generous man, a man unfazed with any problem that he encountered.
I am deeply saddened by his departure......" Stephen Chung
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